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From past few years, many people are working for the rights of genderqueer/third gender, and some wonderful results can be seen. Our society has started accepting them, but what I do not understand is that why cannot we accept them in case of others but when it comes to oneself, we show reluctance, why?
When some parents accept their gender queer children they are praised by some people saying that they have taken a very good initiative but if same happens with them they forget about all those things and start crying as if God knows what has happened to them, why?
As I am growing up I have realized that one thing each one of us needs to understand is that we need to follow our society’s rules because if we do not follow their rules and do not fall on their standards then we are definitely committing some serious sins. To me, our society and its illogical thinking is the only hurdle in the life of the parents of gender queer/third gender children to live a healthy life with their parents.
By providing them the right to vote, to allow them to make passports and to get their NICs our government is doing a great job but they also need something else. They need acceptance, they need a question free life about their existence, they do not need sympathies all they need is support on each level, they do not want the word sorry to be attached with them, and this is what we as a society have failed to provide them with.
When a baby girl is born the nurse comes out happily and announces with a huge smile on her face that “Mubarak ho beti hui hai”, when a baby boy is born the news is given like “Mubarak ho MashaAllah se larka howa hai”, sweets are distributed, hospital staff is also happy and asks for treats/sweets. However, when a child with no particular gender is born the news is given out as “sorry”! But why?
The child is MashaAllah alive, God forbid the child is not suffering some genetic, physical or mental problem then why sorry? Whyisn’t the staff happy, why are the sweets not distributed, why is everybody instead of congratulating the parents saying that it was the will of Allah, why is everybody consoling the family and saying InshaAllah next time. Why?
On next stage, the stage of education there are some schools, which are either completely girls school or completely boys school, where will such children study? Moreover, why is it that on admission forms only two options are given in the place of gender? In addition, in some forms, there are three options male, female and other. Why is there an option of other why not their gender specification just like male or female?
Elders hide their children from such people why don’t we teach our children that they are also humans, they can also be your friends, they are just as normal as everybody else. We don’t need to fear them, they won’t harm us; instead, I believe they are much better humans and can be better relatives and friends if given a chance.
Why is that this word “genderqueer/third gender” is considered as an abusive word? Did we ever think that what do the parents of such children feel when our society treats them like they are not even human beings? Because if we had realized the feelings of such parents we wouldn’t say or do such things because I don’t think humans are so heartless.
Giving them the facility to make passports is very good but there are other things too, and one of such basic right is to get accepted by the society and secondly the right to education. So instead of feeling sympathies for such people move forward and embrace them with all the love and happiness they deserve because they too are the creation of Allah and they too have equal right on all His blessings.
