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With feminism on the rise everywhere in the world, women in Pakistan too believed they were entitled to carrying out their own little movement, to spread the word of equality and how women deserve more than just tantrums in real life.
Some time back, women in Karachi, carried out a Aurat March on the International Women’s Day. This was done in a bid for women to reclaim their ‘space’ in public and in society, generally. The event was lauded as a success, with hundreds of women appearing, holding different placards and their thought of the Aurat March.
Among dozens of different placards, one stood out and became the talk of the town as days passed. The placard said: “Khud Khana Garam Kar Lo” – which means, “warm your own dinner”. This placard took a straight jab at the convention of Pakistan, as women generally cook and warm dinner for their husbands, which now has become the biggest objection in our society.
There were many who spoke in favor of the placard, while others remain divided. Many claim that women in Pakistan have misunderstood the concept of feminism and women right’s, and have turned it into an agenda against men which revolves around ‘food and clothes’.
Well, this is how the internet reacted to ‘Khud khana garam kar lo’
She: khana khud garam karlo
He: us kee zaroorat naheen pare gee
She:how
He:kyun k men khana tumhare upper rakh k khaoon ga.— Main hoon k nahi (@Mariam_mafia) March 18, 2018
Khana khud garam kar lo.
Garam kar Ke choolhy/oven ki safae b khud krna.
Or kha ke bartan b khud dhona.
Or Haan, ab se khana bana na bhi khud.
& ya before you tell me to get tandoor ki Roti, toh boi, first of all I don’t even like it. Tumhe chahye to apny leye khud leke aana.— Alishba (@Alishba812) March 18, 2018
Karachi :’Khana khud garam kar lo’
Ronchi : pic.twitter.com/6namkyAqap— Adi. (@notbaething) March 18, 2018
Ajkal feminism ka daur hey. No girl is interested in listening to kaen kaen of in laws and feed them. Single girl ka daur and “khana khud garam kar lo” times.
— Sadaf Fayyaz Ysufzai (@SadafFayyaz) March 18, 2018
At first I thought how is Khana khud garam kar lo a demand for equality but then I see all these men whine about “agar khud he garam karna hai to shadi kyun karien” and I’m thinking this is why you marry a woman? To make her your maid for the tiniest shit?
Bhai tu akela he mar— Batakab (@NoWonder_Woman) March 17, 2018
“Khana khud garam kar lo”
I’d be like, “why not sweetheart, let me know if you need me to make you something”
Mtlb khana hi garam karna hai, kia hogaya hai larkon? Kar lo na khana garam..
— Terrible Terror Billy (@RivieraOf) March 17, 2018
Mein Bhai ko “khud khana garam kar lo” keh rahi hon ? https://t.co/RSvXwgsFj3
— S. Khan (@SIshaq10) March 17, 2018
Kar lo yar khana khud garam. Not a big deal with ovens now.
— Gladiator Teacher in the North (@siddiqee93) March 17, 2018
When ur future wife says khana khud garam kr lo pic.twitter.com/grjyN41iif
— ? (@Turst_on_Allah) March 17, 2018
When ur future wife says khana khud garam kr lo pic.twitter.com/grjyN41iif
— ? (@Turst_on_Allah) March 17, 2018
Has a sign anywhere ever elicited the kind of reaction from men that “Khana khud garam kar lo” has? Attaching a tweet I just read & a response someone wrote to another man who whined about it. Via @afiasalam #ManTears pic.twitter.com/uVCRRajlMY
— Khizra (@KhizM) March 14, 2018
Whatever the case might be, this one sentence has divided Pakistan’s modern society, with both men and women supporting either side. Why does it matter who warms the food in the relationship, as long as both the husband and wife are contributing with their efforts to bring food at home and give their family a good life.
